TEARS IN HEAVEN
"I am a transgender! During my childhood and adolescence, I had painful growing years because I was different, picked on by other kids, misunderstood by my loving parents." - No Turning Back
Dear Ms. M,
I was born a female thirty-one years ago. I knew I was born to be male for as long as I can recall. I am a transgender! During my childhood and adolescence, I had painful growing years because I was different, picked on by other kids, misunderstood by my loving parents. Five years ago, I confessed to my mother that I intended to have a sex change. Both my mother and father were in a rage and disturbed by my wish. Confused and bothered, I cut off ties with them, moved to another State where I reside now and made a new life living as a man.
Recently I received news from a relative; my parents have been searching for me as they realized my happiness is a choice and not theirs, enough that we could have a relationship again; that blew my mind. Surprisingly, I cried like crazy. In my heart, I didn’t love my parents anymore, but why am I crying? I cannot explain. Could it be because they rejected me, and we’ve been in no communication and have not been in touch for years? Do I forgive them, get in touch, or visit them at least to pay respect as they have
been waiting for me to go back to them? Do I communicate and be thankful to them for giving me life?
No turning back
Dear No turning back,
Parenting is the most significant responsibility one can take up. The future of the children is in their hands, and that is a big job at hand. Children grow to become adorable, caring, sensible, and responsible; they feel satisfied with a job well done. Forgive your parents, not for them but yourself. Love them back. Reaching out to you is an indication they are sorry. They’ve come to understand things that dumbfounded them before. Your refusal to reject them for the people they become isn’t all different from refusing to accept you for who you are. It’s fear-based and punishing. You only have one parent. They are still the reason for who you are now. You cannot change that. They are not in fear anymore. They knew you can handle the life you are enjoying now. Embrace them before it becomes too late; worst is for you to regret later because there’s tears in heaven they took with them. Let God be your Spotlight to bless and guide you on the right path.
Love & Light,
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